Why be scared to be the first person to speak up in class, or at a meeting? What are you frightened of? Ridicule? Derision?
If someone encroaches on your territory, why let them stamp all over it?
A couple of weeks ago, when I went to see The Rolling Stones, the woman sitting next to us was dancing around wildly (a few too many wines I think), often bumping into me and my girlfriend. I didn’t say anything. Who was in the wrong? Her, for encroaching on my evening, or me, for not taking it upon myself to have a quiet, respectful word?
We’re raised to be polite, accepting, conservative. That’s fine – sometimes. But we could all do with being a little more assertive, saying yes – and taking ownership. As Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, says: ‘You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.’
I think we only get one shot at life – one chance at bat. Are you going to let anyone else influence your precious time?